Love on the Brain: 4 Ways Self-Love Strengthens Relationships

A lot of people have love on the brain right now and it's not even because of Valentine's Day! 

I'm totally that girl who will buy chocolates and flowers for myself because I love them and I'm worth it.  

Loving yourself is the firm foundation on which every other relationship in your life is built.  

It also helps you avoid the trap that so many other people fall into which is thinking your relationship status is related to your self-worth.  

So, if you're single then you must be unworthy on some level, right? 

That type of thinking is so last century! 

Right now, there's a powerful change taking place on the relationship scene, and I am here for it! 

Clients are reaching out to me because:  

* They're finally recognizing how badly their boundaries have been disrespected.  

* They want to let go of a toxic relationship from the past or present. 

* They want to build up their confidence and self-esteem after a difficult relationship 

* They want to learn to recognize red flags as they happen and stop excusing bad behavior.  

Part of this Love Revolution involves realizing a few key things.  

1) You deserve to be loved and accepted in relationships for exactly who you are (because you're awesome), but not everyone is going to be what you need or be able to do that for you. 

2) You absolutely cannot change anyone else. Only THEY can do that. The only person you can control is YOU. Some people CHOOSE not to change for a lot of subconscious reasons. 

3) Hope isn't reality. Don't get me wrong, I love hope! But hoping things get better without both people putting in the effort to make things work isn't likely to improve things. 

In this case, hope acts like a trap that could be keeping you in a toxic situation. Sometimes, hope is a fantasy that you need to let go of to feel better and move on. 

4) Not every relationship can be saved and sometimes the kindest thing for everyone involved is to let go with grace, move on, and heal. 

This isn't about being a quitter or failing. It's about learning to love and respect yourself even if it means leaving a relationship or person behind.  

No relationship is ever a failure because you learned valuable lessons for the future that involve respect, boundaries, trust, and how to see and believe red flags when they present themselves. 

If you or someone you know is having trouble letting go (emotionally or physically) from relationships, then I can help you see things in a different way, support you through mindset shifts, and help you increase your self-love and confidence. 

Click HERE to book your 1:1 session. 

April Darley is a Confidence and Resilience Coach specializing in helping overwhelmed women release anxiety and doubt so they can become more confident, decisive, and have better quality relationships with others. Through the Three Brain Realignment Technique (TBRT), you'll learn how to step into your own power, and comfortably deal with life's challenges.